JOSEPH W. TKACH
PASTOR GENERAL

February 1989

Dear Friend:

Thank you for your question concerning the subject of oral sex.

Nothing is specifically written in the Bible to condemn oral sex within marriage if both husband and wife are fully agreed in expressing their intimacy in this manner.

God's law of love would certainly rule out oral sex if either mate finds it objectionable, or if the likelihood of causing bodily harm exists -- as would be the case if one mate suffers from genital herpes, for example. Therefore, no Christian should demand oral sex if his or her mate finds it offensive! It is not a necessary element for good sexual adjustment in marriage.

Oral sex is a matter that concerns only the husband and wife involved. If both enjoy it as an expression of marital love, then it may properly fit into their lovemaking practices. But if either partner has any hesitancy about it, it will not add to the pleasure of the relationship and should not be used. Each mate should CERTAINLY refrain from anything that would be offensive to the other.

Sex in marriage should be a mutual expression of deep CONCERN and LOVE between mates. Whatever method of stimulation is used by a husband and wife should be based upon that foundation and be within the revealed laws of God.

Whenever we may assist you further with your study of the Bible or in matters of Christian living, we hope you will let us know.

PERSONAL CORRESPONDENCE DEPARTMENT